Do you turn dating into relationship

27-Dec-2016 13:15

If you’re a single woman, you’re probably all too aware of the challenges of dating in 2016.Social media, hookup culture, and dating apps like Tinder have all but ended the existence of old-fashioned courtships.

"What happens when you agree to what was intended to be a casual hookup and nothing serious..you end up falling for him? How do you make a casual hookup into something better?

It is often said that women are the gatekeepers to sex, while guys are the gatekeepers to commitment. If you think sex is everything that a guy wants, you're wrong.

As a result, many women have a love-hate relationship with sex. The sex alone isn't worth it if he doesn't like you all that much, especially if you constantly nag and create drama.

Say, for instance, that you know that continuing to hook up with your guy without a commitment will make you anxious. If this guy can't give you a relationship that makes you feel happy and secure, then you're better off not continuing things. Now you need to make it clear that your feelings have shifted. Just telling him as it is—that you went into this totally attracted to him and you didn't have any expectations.

But for the past [amount of time here] you've started to feel more strongly for him and want to know where he stands. After you've let him know how you feel, suggest another time to meet up and chat (ideally, he'll have feelings too and this will be your "first date." Worst case, you can meet casually and have a discussion about moving on and respecting each other's decision—not the end of the world).

"What happens when you agree to what was intended to be a casual hookup and nothing serious..you end up falling for him? How do you make a casual hookup into something better?

It is often said that women are the gatekeepers to sex, while guys are the gatekeepers to commitment. If you think sex is everything that a guy wants, you're wrong.

As a result, many women have a love-hate relationship with sex. The sex alone isn't worth it if he doesn't like you all that much, especially if you constantly nag and create drama.

Say, for instance, that you know that continuing to hook up with your guy without a commitment will make you anxious. If this guy can't give you a relationship that makes you feel happy and secure, then you're better off not continuing things. Now you need to make it clear that your feelings have shifted. Just telling him as it is—that you went into this totally attracted to him and you didn't have any expectations.

But for the past [amount of time here] you've started to feel more strongly for him and want to know where he stands. After you've let him know how you feel, suggest another time to meet up and chat (ideally, he'll have feelings too and this will be your "first date." Worst case, you can meet casually and have a discussion about moving on and respecting each other's decision—not the end of the world).

There are so many religious, cultural, emotional and personal issues attached to it. So if he's sticking around, but not committing, it's not the sex that is to blame.